You know the indignities that you sometimes put up with as a solo, particularly when you work at home? The comments like "wow, must be nice to do whatever you want all day long" or the implication that you are available to babysit or take a trip spur of the moment? Sometimes, they’re enough to make you feel like you really don’t have a job.
Well today, I had payback for all of those comments. My daughter Elana (far left, with my adorable baby niece Leila in the middle and my younger daughter Mira at right) asked me today, somewhat intentionally, if she would make a good lawyer (we had just finished another one of those annoying may/must debates – me: you must do homework neatly, her: no, the teacher does not say must, only try). I responded that yes, Elana, you will make a good lawyer if that is what you want to be and then Elana asked where she would work if she were a lawyer. So I began by saying that she could work at a firm, at the government, at which point, Elana cut me off and said "Mommy, why can’t I have my own firm like you?" Which made my day.
Contratulations! You have obviously been a wonderful model of attorneyhood for your girls. I also have daughters (3) and when my eldest was 8 years old she asked me what type of work did an attorney do. After my explanation she wrinkled her nose and solemnly said that she did not want to be an attorney. She had watched me working as a litigation associate on partner track at large law firms. (I worked 13-14 hour days even through my pregnancy with my second daughter – in the ’80s we thought we could do it all!)
By contrast, my second daughter has observed me working in my home office and has decided that she is going to be a lawyer (if her acting career doesn’t work out, of course)!
I want to commend you on this blawg – it truly speaks to my needs as a working single mother. I have even made MyShingle my home page!
Keep up the excellent work.